Thursday, December 31, 2009

20 22 Goals for 2010

1) Organize our office and basement
2) Go to bed earlier/get up for work on time
3) Create and follow a regular cleaning schedule
4) Sew one item of clothing from scratch
5) Find a workout schedule where I work out consistantly (at least) three days a week
6) Run two 10Ks
7) Purge and create a workable wardrobe
8) Make the kitchen window curtains
9) Stop drinking soda
10) Finish the quilt I've been working on for years
11) Start a monthly dinner potluck club with the girls
12) Get my clothes altered so they fit correctly
13) Find a job in a smaller/cheaper city
14) Take more photos
15) Eradicate 25% of my debt this year (including student loans)
16) Build up a savings account
17) To keep up with my email inbox so I don't blink and end up with 900 plus email messages
18) To concentrate on work at work, concentrate on home at home
19) Eat better portion sizes, better balanced meals
20) Start eating breakfast
21) Be better organized and on top of things at work
22) Take the time to read a book a month

Also posted in the sidebar to remind me.

Wednesday, December 30, 2009

2009 in photos

Tuesday, December 29, 2009

Are your pets vicious?

In our quest to become functioning adults, Bill and I decided that it was about time to get renter's insurance. I say it this way so you think that we actually remembered this and sought it out, instead of it being offered when I called Geico to change my name and marital status on my car insurance policy. When they mentioned it a light bulb went off and I was like oh yeah, we were supposed to get that like 6 months ago when we moved in here.

They transfer me to their renter's insurance agent and he asks the typical questions about where we live, what we use the house for, if we have smoke detectors and fire extinguishers then asks if we have pets.

Yes, two cats.

Are they vicious? Have they ever attacked anyone?

They're cats?

I once asked someone if they had pets and they told me they had one cat. I assumed it was a house cat and it turns out it was some form of mountain lion. Now, I never assume.

Point taken, insurance man.

Monday, December 28, 2009

Highlights of our Christmas

* Our household did not do any Christmas shopping until I finally went out at about 2pm on Christmas Eve. However, I was done with all the shopping and home by 5pm. There aren't many good things that came from my time of shopping addiction (hello, lack of money!) but one of the few is that I am a really great shopper. I know what lots aren't as crowded, I know which checkouts no one thinks to go to. Even on Christmas Eve.

* Notice that I did all the shopping, meaning my husband did not get me a Christmas gift. I actually don't care, but it's fun to give him a hard time about it.

* My mother decided that since I refused to pick up on her "subtle" hints that she wanted to spend the night Christmas Eve, she would just show up at my car with her overnight bag when I picked her up for church. I guess it worked, because by that point what was I supposed to say?

* I decided on Christmas Eve that my desire to cook Christmas dinner was at about zero. My desire to clean up after it was at about negative 1000. So, I made us dinner reservations at the Chart House instead. Nothing says Christmas like expensive seafood and views of the Potomac River.

* Bill worked the midnight shift Christmas Eve. Just like he worked the midnight shift on Thanksgiving Eve. I understand the idea that it's easy overtime (plus holiday pay) but it always kind of sucks for me.

* My Mother in Law sent us a gloating text message wishing us a Merry Christmas from South Texas where there was NOT almost 2 feet of snow and it was NOT frigidly cold.

* My mother declared that since I was the hostess I had to give out all the Christmas presents and then open mine. This was after I cooked breakfast for everyone and she empty-offered to do the dishes without actually ever intending to do them. She was not joking or being sarcastic.

* To wrap up our Christmas dinner, my mother declared that we had no religion. Because hers is the only one that counts. Bill looked about one step away from strangling her, so it was time to go home.

* We woke up the day after Christmas to a flooding basement. Apparently when you have tons of snow on the ground and add a rainstorm, it does not lead to good things. Bill spent most of his day on a constant rotation of putting down towels, running them through the spin cycle, then the dryer and putting down dry towels trying to keep the water in the back room and not letting it get near our couch... or the XBox 360.

*Hope your Christmas was wonderful!

Friday, December 18, 2009

Snow's coming!

No Quick Takes today because I've been too busy. However I just wanted to say...

Library Books that are fun to read..... check!
Netflix galore..... check!
Nothing I have to do outdoors..... check!
Leftover alcohol from wedding..... check!
7-11 within walking distance in case we run out of snacks..... check!
Stack of Thank You Notes to write....... check!

Okay, I'm ready. Bring it on snow.

One of the latest forecasts. I do have to admit that if this actually does happen, the DC area will be in deep doo doo because we have absolutely no way to handle that much snow. We just don't get it. We have no where to put it, not enough equipment and no real snow plows (we just attach plows to the front of trucks here). This would shut us down for a week. No joke. Not even our close by metro stop will help since it's above ground and above ground stops are closed once snow goes over 8 inches (can't keep it off the tracks).

I used to live up in the Rockies in Utah and this would be like child's play to them. They have industrial plows (real ones), everyone has 4 wheel drive, they know how to handle it, and there's plenty of open areas to move the snow to. It's all about perspective.

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

Golden Globes 2010 nominees:

As far as I can tell, the only people out there who review movies/tv shows or give reviews tend to be what I have dubbed entertainment snobs. You know the types- think that certain movies and tv shows are perfect and have all these deeper meanings and how dare people disagree with them because they are always right. Now, I watch some of these things that they dub having deeper meanings and it has struck
me on more than one occassion that some of these things are trying too hard to be deep. Or off the wall. And they tend to throw in violence and overt sex just because. It doesn't add anything to the plot, I think sometimes it's just to shock you into thinking that it was wonderful.

I don't like watching movies with violence, over-the-top sex scenes, or ones that are too depressing (as in start out sad, continue being sad, end sad) so I never really like anything that I am told to like. I don't think I'm alone out there.

I generally pay absolutely no attention to awards shows because of many of the reasons above. For example, I don't care if Slumdog Millionare won gazillion awards including Best Picture because I will never, ever see it. Why? Because of the torture scene in which they pull off someone's fingernails.

After getting a lecture from an "entertainment snob" (and constant movie goer) about why this list of nominees sucks, Julie & Julia had absolutely no leg to stand on in anyone getting an award for it, and why Sandra Bullock should never get an award for anything, I felt that I needed to give my opinion. Which is that the vast majority of movies released nowadays are horrid, none of them deserve awards and Hollywood has lost all creativity which is why I rarely go to the movies anymore. I was challenged to watch every single movie and then form my opinion. I decided to take it one step further and actually review all of the nominees thinking that there are people out there like me, who like and dislike movies similar to the ones I like.

I am giving myself a deadline of before the awards show (January 17, 2010) but we'll see if I make it.

Here's the full list (strike outs are the few I've already seen):
“The Hurt Locker”
“Inglorious Basterds”
“Precious: Based on the Novel PUSH by Sapphire”
“Up in the Air”
“The Young Victoria”
“The Blind Side”
“The Last Station”
“An Education”
“Crazy Heart”
“Up in the Air”
“A Single Man”
“500 Days of Summer”
“The Hangover”
“It’s Complicated”
“Julie & Julia”
“The Proposal”
“The Informant!”
“Sherlock Holmes”
“A Serious Man”
“A Single Man”
“The Lovely Bones”
“The Messenger”
“The Fantastic Mr. Fox”
“Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs”
“The Princess and the Frog”
“Broken Embraces”
“A Prophet”
“The White Ribbon”
“The Maid”
“District 9"
“Where the Wild Things Are”

Tuesday, December 15, 2009

Ten on Tuesday, Vol. 7

1. If you could change anything about your physical appearance, what would it be?
I'd either want my eyes to be bigger or my belly fat to magically disappear. Both are an annoyance.

2. Is there a habit in others that you find annoying?
Currently at the top of my list: when people say "to be honest..." I hate that. I always want to respond "because you weren't being honest before?" or "no, I was talking to you because I preferred for you to lie in all of your responses, no matter how mundane."

3. What is your favorite recipe using ground beef?
Burgers. I'm a simple girl.

4. What was your favorite book as a kid?
I'm not that sure really, I was more about reading as many books as I possibly could then reading books repeatedly. I tried to just read from one end of the library to the other a couple of summers but there are just too many poorly written and boring books out there.

5. Did you work as a teenager and if so, where?
When I was 15 I worked at a tourist t-shirt store in Old Town and at a cafe behind the counter. When I was 16 I started working at the Gap, where I worked for the next 7 years on and off.

6. Did you work while in college and if so, where?
I worked at Dairy Queen while physically at school, I did temp work during the days during breaks and at the Gap at nights.

7. When you go to sleep do you like total darkness or semi? When you go to sleep do you need quiet or is some noise ok?
If I'm alone I'm afraid of the dark, so I can't go to sleep without at least one light on. When someone else is around I sleep in the total dark. The quiet issue is complicated; for some reason at night I have super sonic hearing that I do not have during the day. I hear everything. Bill can't sleep without a fan on which provides some white noise and yet if a floor board creaks I hear it and promptly wake up. I spend half of the night thinking people are breaking in and about to murder us. I would probably benefit from sleeping pills but I'm afraid to take them because then you don't wake up if something happens. Yeah... I'm neurotic.

8. When doing laundry, fabric softener or not?
Not. Adds an unnecessary level of complication says me.

9. Open toed or closed toed shoes?
Depends on the season. Open toed in the summer, closed toed when it gets cold. Socks/pantyhose with open toed shoes looks horrid.

10. Would you rather be blind or deaf?
Deaf. I think it would be easier to adapt.

11. Dangle or stud earrings?
Studs generally day to day because they look more professional. I like dangles when I go out. Especially super large dangles.

12. Bottled water or tap?
I don't really have a preference, water is water unless you are in Mexico or DC.

13. What do you put on pancakes?

14. On a long trip would you rather drive or fly?
Fly. I hate sitting still for anything more than 4.5 hours. That's the distance to Blacksburg from my current location and my absolute max for car trips. Unless there are extenuating circumstances. If I am the one driving that's the max I can do before my legs start feeling shin splinty and cramping up.

15. Do you prefer classic old movies or new?
Usually classic old. As in Bing Crosby, Katharine Hepburn, Spencer Tracy old.

Read more here.

Wednesday, December 9, 2009


Have you put up your tree yet? We have.

Apparently it's a great place for kitties to sit.

Happy Holidays!

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

Ten on Tuesday, Vol. 6

1. Cost aside, if you could go (back) to college for anything besides what you currently “do,” what would you study?
My current job has absolutely nothing with what I studied in college, and the same is true for pretty much everyone I know. If I had to go back and tell myself something at 18 it would be that unless you have a huge passion for something and know you are going to get a doctorate in it or something, go with a generic major that's relatively easy so you have better grades/more options later. My undergrad was in Biology (minor in Chemistry), you can imagine how easy that was.

If this is a fun question; I think I'd go back for sociology or nursing. I think I'd be a really good social worker, even though they barely make any money; and I think nursing would be interesting because if you worked in a hospital you'd get to have different stuff happen all the time. I dislike monotony. Plus they need nurses everywhere, so you could move anywhere you wanted.

2. What do you do for a living? Do you love it/hate it?
I work with finances and contracts. The job is okay, I would be 100% happy with it if it were a telecommuting position and I could either work from home here and go in for meetings once a week or from a smaller town area and just come in every month/few months for meetings. I know a lot of people say that, but honestly if the upper management weren't so stubborn my job is 100% telecommuting compatible- so it's not just wishful thinking. Most days, not one person talks to me in the office because everything is done online and on the phone.

Since we can't actually ever afford to buy a house in this area, nor have kids, it would be extremely helpful to be able to move southward in the state where the cost of living is 400% lower.

3. What is your favorite Christmas ornament? If you don’t celebrate Christmas, what is your favorite holiday tradition?
I just bought these small glittery birds that I like a lot. I don't really have ornaments (yet) with any sentimental attachment, it's all just random stuff we've received/bought just to have stuff to put on the tree. Bill's mom gave us an ornament of a fat snowman police officer that makes me giggle.

4. Name something you could literally do without for the rest of your life.
Spam. Why does it exist? Seriously, does anyone in the world eat it? If you need low cost protein, beans are a lot less disgusting.

5. If you were going to have any kind of “cosmetic procedure,” what would it be?
Probably liposuction because it seems like a quicker fix then Weight Watchers ;-) I'd never do it though.

6. Do you have any “collections”? (comic books, shoes, etc.)
No. I hate clutter which precludes collecting anything. I do have a ton of books though, if that counts. So many that we've run out of space and I can't buy anymore until we have a bigger house.

7. At what age did you get your first cell phone?
21. I bought it myself in college when they were first becoming popular, mostly because I had a key to open the Dairy Queen I worked at and lived really close to it so a lot of times people would call me because they couldn't open/lock up.

8. What is currently in your purse (or pocket or backpack if you’re a guy)?
Cell phone in carrying case hanging on the side
copy of The Shack
Makeup bag (I put it on at stoplights on the way to work, yes- I am that woman)
One pair of light blue gloves
Daily Devotional Guide (Nov/Dec)
Weight Watchers pocket guide
2 pens
1 pencil
Sudafed tablets
Excedrin Migraine
1 case Maxalt
1 airplane packet of salted peanuts

9. Are you a neat-freak or a slob ? *this applies to house, office, car, etc.
Both. Yeah, it makes no sense to anyone else either. My office is completely OCD down to everything lined up evenly on my desk. Home goes from neat to chaotic depending on how busy and motivated I am; and how much overtime Bill had to work. My car is disgusting. I'm not quite sure why that is, but there's a running joke that once something goes to the backseat it's lost forever. I have stuff on the floor, on the seats, cans, etc. I only clean it out when making a road trip or when something starts to smell and I can't find it.

10. What kind of parent do you think you will be? If you’re already a parent, what is your style?
I really have no idea. I think I'll be pretty strict but I also know that it's important for kids to earn respect and independence. I also won't make mole hills into mountains. Focus on what's important and will effect them negatively down the line, let go of all the things that aren't so important.

Read more here.

Monday, December 7, 2009

Kim's Daybook for December 7th

For today...

Outside my window... there's snow on the ground. The snow we got last weekend was so strange, you could drive down the road and see areas that just got rain, just a little snow and lots of snow. Very spotty. At work we have snow, at home we have nothing. They are only 4.8 miles apart (according to google maps).

*Side note: to illustrate how bad the traffic is in our area, if you took 4.8 miles figuring the speed limit is on average 35mph and stoplights it should take me 10-15 minutes max to get there. It averages me 45 minutes. No, I'm not kidding. The record was 1 hour 15 minutes.

I am thinking... about my work schedule for Christmas. I have to turn it in to my boss soon.

I am thankful for... my friends. I think it would be hard to not have any type of support system. I've never dealt with that since I've lived in the same place my whole life and even when I went to college people I had known for years went to the same place.

I am wearing... a red sweater from Old Navy, black pants, black heels.

I am remembering... last Christmas.

I am going... to make my front door wreath tonight. Our local Michael's had a 60% off sale yesterday- I went a bit crazy.

I am currently reading... The Shack. I have a book club on it at church starting in January.

I am hoping... that the snow starting early this year bodes well for having a snowy winter.

On my mind... scheduling out a cleaning schedule. I keep trying to find one that works best with our schedules to keep the house cleaner in pieces, instead of us having to clean like mad when company comes over and letting it go other times.

Noticing that... it's really quiet in my hallway. I wonder where everyone is.

Pondering these words... "When I no longer thrill to the first snow of the season, I'll know I'm growing old."
-Lady Bird Johnson

From the kitchen...
Menu Plan this Week:
Pan Grilled Strip Steak with Horseradish sauce (epicurious)
Baked Potatoes

Spaghetti with sauce
Parmesan Roasted Broccoli (Food Network, Ina Garten)
Garlic Bread

Corn Bread Muffins

Make gingerbread stuffs

Gingerbread party!

Baked Mac and Cheese (Food Network, Alton Brown) with Chicken Strips
Peas (can)

Turkey Meatloaf with Feta and Sun Dried Tomatoes

Around the house... it's beginning to look a lot like Christmas! The tree went up on Saturday, the lights for the front yard and the wreath for the door will be done this week.

One of my favorite things~ sweaters and boots. I love winter clothing!

From my picture journal...

Lea's new big bed. She doesn't fall over the sides of this one (because it's a dog bed... shhhh!)

Read more daybooks here.

Friday, December 4, 2009

7 Quick Takes Friday, Vol. 8

1. Had another dental appointment yesterday and according to my dentist I ask more questions then any patient he's ever had. Well, everyone has to have a niche. I did however learn that the reason it's harder to novacaine the bottom part of the mouth then the top is because the top's nerves are like braches. So they can just inject exactly where they want to. However, the bottom is like a tree trunk- beneath muscle. So they have to novacaine the entire area, which is why when you get novacaine on the bottom your lip and tongue will go numb in addition to your gums when on the top it usually doesn't do that. It's also why you have more injection site pain from novacaine application to the bottom, they are jabbing through muscle afterall. And let me tell you- I have some awesome levels of injection site pain. I also think that from the cleaning they got some bacteria in my throat because I'm developing a wicked sore throat and ear. It may just be coincidence though.

2. Last night Bill and I started tackling the horrorfest that is our basement. It's just so easy to pile stuff down there and forget about it. I found 3 boxes of completely unopened candle vases because I massively overbought decorations for the wedding. In some cases it wasn't my fault though- the way to get the low low prices is to buy from bulk places so it was actually cheaper to buy a ton then to buy a few. Not just cheaper each but cheaper total. I posted those three boxes on Craigslist and the Knot selling boards and already have 3 6 responses. (edit: got 3 more while typing this) Hopefully someone will take them.

3. When they asked for pictures I sent pics from the ones I used at the wedding since our photographer recently uploaded all our photos. Here's the two I was emailing out:

I had almost forgot how pretty the room looked. Not to toot my own horn (well maybe a little) but I did a really good job on the decorations. If you are wondering what the favors were- they were jars of homemade hot chocolate mix.

4. Here's another pic I liked:

It's myself and my bridesmaids in a group hug right after the ceremony. Or right before. Honestly the day was kinda a blur and I don't remember.

5. We had a great time at Post-Thanksgiving (the gathering of my friends for our own Thanksgiving apart from familial obligations). Not that you can tell from this picture which, as far as I can tell, was while we were playing Celebrity. These facial expressions are for two reasons 1) one of our friends is incredibly uber competitive at the game and yells at you for not being good enough, so we don't really like playing it and 2) I think the other team was going so we were bored and this was before we kept drinking to make the whole thing more enjoyable.

I'm on the left, if you are curious.

6. Since everyone else is talking about snow in their quick takes I'll jump on the bandwagon.

As you can see, not great chances for anything significant however just to even have the chance of cosmetic snow this early in the season is exciting! Nothing works better to get you in the Christmas mood, especially the day we are planning on decorating.

7. We have a busy weekend planned. Saturday we are getting up to head to Macys to finish buying the remaining stuff from our wedding registry, then over to Lowe's to get a Christmas tree and some outdoor lights. Then we're heading home to decorate and watch a ton of football. Sunday I have church and then Alaina and I are heading to AC Moore so I can return a few things and use the $10 store credit voucher I got from using my Rewards card (I bought a LOT during the wedding) to buy stuff to make a door wreath. Then we are headed to a nice dinner at Rustico to celebrate my mom's 68th birthday.

Read more Quick Takes here.

Wednesday, December 2, 2009


Scenes from the movie theatre:

Kim: You know that scene where she called the high school football coach during the game to tell him off about his play calling?

Bill: That's going to be you?

Ah, he knows me so well ;-) I probably won't wait until high school either, that will be me in pee wee.

Monday, November 30, 2009

Ten on Tuesday, Vol. 5

Happy December! How'd that happen?

1. What was the last concert you’ve been to?
Britney Spears. It was awe.some, which I am not at all ashamed to admit. I am going to try to go to Lady Gaga in January I think.

2. Is it easy to make you cry?
No. People don't make me cry. I only cry in two situations- 1) I'm overly tired or 2) I have PMS. Or some evil combination of the two together. When those occur, people may think they made me cry (if they actually witness it, which is unlikely) but if not for those things being true I never would have. I have an incredibly thick skin.

3. Do you ever feel like people underestimate you?
All the time. Two reasons. One, I'm blonde. Say what you will but people really do stereotype blondes as being dumb, I really don't get it. I've rarely met a dumb blonde. Two, I look extremely young. Especially for my job, so I always surprise people with knowing what I'm doing which is actually visible in their expression.

4. Name 7 completely random things that you like:
1. UFC- No, I'm not one of those girls who claims she likes it, I really do. I'd dazzle you with my random UFC fight knowledge.

2. Pickle flavored chips. On the package it says only kids and pregnant women like them, and I haven't found anyone else who does. But yum!

3. I signed up while I was engaged because the ladies on the knot kept saying you could get really good deals, and you really can. I just ordered these adorable return address labels and got 140 of them for free.

No you didn't just hallucinate.... FREE. Well, I paid $3 shipping and handling, but still. They are so festive and cute.

4. They are the only place that sell dresses that actually fit my strangely freakish long body without the skirts being way too short. And their clearance section has some crazy good deals. (I have a personal adversion to paying full price for anything and more than $30 for any article of clothing or shoe.)

5. Multicolored pens. I love them. Love. Them. I went to Staples and they had this bin where you just filled a plastic bag with different pens and then I brought them to work. It's amazing how much happiness they give me just by being able to write something in bright pink or orange during the dullness of my day.

6. White/blush wine. I used to hate wine. Despise it, actually. Then we met another couple on our honeymoon that we went to dinner with a few nights and she had a knack of picking out wines I actually really liked. Now that I know what to look for, my opinion has changed completely.

7. Calenders. I love calenders/planners. Just something about laying out my weeks in to do lists makes me feel so happy.

5. What’s your favorite reality TV show and why?
Oh, this one is so hard- reality shows are kind of like my crack. I guess maybe Top Chef? I also love Ghost Hunters, which is sorta reality in the sense that it's not scripted. Then there's the competitive cooking shows on the Food Network....

see what I mean?

6. What is your favorite hair care product?
I use nothing on my hair. No, I'm not joking. I'm rather hair retarded, so I decided awhile back that there's absolutely no point to even put in the time when it looks like poo when I'm done anyway. So now every single day I wash my hair, comb it out and put it up in a clip. Most of the time, I don't even use a hair dryer.

7. What’s your favorite song at the moment?
I just barely found my Ipod charger which had been missing for about a year so I'm reloving all my songs on there. My computer with Itunes on it died and since Itunes is stupid and you can't access your library from any other source, I lost all of them. This is one of many reasons I hate Ipods.

8. What’s the number one thing on your Christmas wishlist?
A Garmin. It's been the number one thing on my wishlist for every single holiday/birthday and still I do not have one. I am starting to think that Bill has something against Garmin.

9. Have you ever lost your cell phone?
Yep. Multiple times. Usually I find it, a couple times I've had people call me and tell me they have it. One reason it's so important to put an entry in your address book reading "Home" or "If lost call this number."

10. Did you attack the hordes of shoppers for Black Friday?
No. I never do. Both crowds and messy packed in stores give me panic attacks, so combining them seems like a bad idea.

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Conversation from our house:

Bill: Your cat has been spending a lot of time in the basement lately, maybe she's trying to open a portal to hell.
Kim: I wouldn't really be surprised, this morning when I got up I heard her moving around down there for quite awhile, then use the litterbox and then happily trot up the stairs and sit looking quite pleased with herself.
Bill: Wait... you let her out of the carrier- right?
Kim: What?
Bill: This morning because she was being a brat I put out the food, showed it to her and then stuck her in the carrier downstairs*.
Kim: No, I did not let her out of the carrier... how did she get out?
Bill: Demon. cat. I told you.
Kim: If she's learned how to unzip her carrier then what am I going to do????
Bill: Padlock.

* Some might think what he did was mean but you have never met my cat. She is mean, way too smart for a cat and stubborn. It is a horrible, horrible combination which leads to little sleep, scratches, kitty punches and bites. We've tried everything but sometimes it just flares up.

** Also, upon inspection her carrier WAS unzipped. We are hoping it was just not zipped correctly versus her unzipping it because I do not want to have to buy a padlock and then have to explain why on earth my little 7 lb cat is in a carrier padlocked shut.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Ten on Tuesday, Vol. 4

1. When you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?
When I was in kindergarten I wanted to be a school bus driver, after that- a vet. Even though Chelsea claims that all little girls want to be teachers at some point, I never did. Not even once. I've always liked animals more than people (especially more than children).

2. Name 3 of your irrational fears.
1. Guns, more specifically guns accidentally going off. This would not be a problem except I married a police officer. Who carries a gun. And keeps it in our house. Even though logically I know that official weapons are even less likely to accidentally go off (wouldn't want their officers to shoot themselves in the leg or anything) I still always turn the gun towards walls when it's sitting on top of dressers, bookcases, etc.
2. Getting fired. It is so extreme that I refuse to put anything personal in my office and I think of everything as a temporary stop. It's irrational because I've never been fired (laid off once because the owner was a butthead and overexpanded so much he couldn't afford to pay us), nor do I have any reason to think I'd be fired- never have received as much as an average performance evaluation. However, I always think I will.
3. Being attacked. This is so extreme that I flat out refuse to ever wear earphones, even on low, when walking by myself along a road or trail. Even if it's right next to a busy road. I also will walk in the street before passing a thickly wooded area at night... even if it's just dark because it's winter and it's only really 5:30. When Bill worked nights I was completely incapable of sleeping a full night because I sleep so lightly and think every noise I hear is someone breaking in to kill/rape me. I have no idea where this came from, but it's totally irrational. I know this, and I know that it's actually rather unlikely to be attacked (especially by a stranger) and yet still it remains.

3. If you had a $200 gift card to any store, what would you want it to be? (Nothing responsible allowed. Can’t be used for groceries or anything)
Target, because everytime I go in there (even if it's just to pick up one thing) I always end up spending at least $100. I have no idea how that happens.

4. What is your most (blog-friendly) embarrassing moment?
For the first college interview I went on I was so nervous that I unbuttoned my suit jacket... and then kept going without realizing it. I unbuttoned my shirt and flashed the admissions person. Luckily (one) she was a woman and (two) I was so flat chested there was nothing to see anyway. My 17 year old self was mortified.

5. If you were only allowed to eat one thing for the rest of your life, what would you choose?
Bacon or Avocado. It's a toss up. Avocado is healthier for me so my life would be longer.

6. What was your favorite toy growing up?
My stuffed care bear- PJ. I slept with him until I was about 24. At that point I traded him fully in for warm fuzzy kitties.

7. Do you have a “go to” outfit? What is it?
I wear sweats almost all the time... seriously. It's really bad how lazy I am. Lately though my "go-to going out outfit" is this black dress I got at a store having a moving sale. Here's two pics of it:

With a sweater, beads, sash, etc over it.

Dinner on our honeymoon. You can kinda glimpse my gold shoes that I got on the clearance rack at DSW for like $10. They are Michael Kors and seriously are all gold (thus why they were on clearance). I call them my tranny shoes, but they are fun.

8. Who was the best teacher you ever had?
Most influental- my AP Biology teacher Mr. Keener (spelling I'm not sure of), he's who made me decide to major in Bio in college. Most patient- Mr. Kekonis (spelling? once again), our schools Calculus BC teacher who was willing to go over everything with me as many times as I needed. He was also like 100 years old back then and about a year ago I ran into him in a supermarket line... he remembered me. I was honestly surprised he was still alive.

9. If you could buy any car right now (something at least SORT OF within the realm of reality…so, you know, a Rolls Royce may not qualify), what would it be?
Some sort of SUV with a magical refilling gas tank. Oh wait, you said within the realm of reality... I just really want a bigger car. I'm not picky what. Currently I drive a 2 door hatchback Ford Focus.

10. How do you reckon that Chelsea comes up with 10 of these questions every week? It was hard! What’s your theory on how she’s so creative? Are you going to help her?
I have no idea, maybe she asks people like her husband for help? I think asking people to supply questions is a good idea. Group thinking is usually easier than one person coming up with 10 unique questions a week.

Read more here.

Monday, November 23, 2009

Thanksgiving planning...

Just finished making my grocery list and am now wondering how much I can do early... I always tend to bite off a bit more than I can (easily) chew.

I always do a "Pre-Thanksgiving" with my friends which we postponed until one of our friends was in town this year, so I'm hosting two thanksgivings in two days.

Here's the plan:


Onion dip and chips
Celery with pimento

Main Course
Roasted Turkey with Apple Cider Thyme Gravy

Herb and Apple stuffing
Rustic Mashed Potatoes with Chives
Candied Yams (no marshmellows)
Cranberry Sauce
Green Beans with Caramelized Onions and Almonds

Pumpkin Pie
Chocolate Pecan Pie

Friday Additions

Spiced shrimp with cocktail sauce

(vegetarian) Spinach and Ricotta Lasagne


The things I struggle with:

  • Worrying that I'm not as good at things as others; cleaning the house, cooking, baking, etc.
  • Not loving the area that we live in
  • Being bored at work but knowing that it is actually a good job for me to have, so there isn't much I can do about it
  • Never getting as much accomplished as I want to

    Bill and I were talking about the first thing last night and he was trying to point out that he doesn't care or expect me to be great at those things. I had to explain to him that it isn't about him, women don't function that way. We compare ourselves to other females. I know someone whose house is always clean and I never measure up to it- that worries me a lot more than it probably should.

    In other news- Thanksgiving already?!? Egads! Heading out to the grocery store tonight, hoping that it isn't a complete mad house if we go either early enough or late enough.
  • Tuesday, November 17, 2009

    Ten on Tuesday, Vol. 3

    1. What are some of your family traditions?
    Aside from always going to church on Christmas Eve- usually a midnight candlelight service, we really don't have any. Any tradition that got started my mom would get tired of in a few years, she doesn't even put up a tree anymore for Christmas. I've made it a goal to start my own.

    2. Do you know how to change a flat tire?
    Yes, although I don't have a lifty thingy in my trunk so I'd still be SOL if I did get a flat tire. No, I don't know the official names to anything, but I know how to work them. That actually reflects the way I do most things.

    3. Do you subscribe to any magazines? What are your favorites? Fine Cooking, Better Homes and Gardens and Self. BHG and Self I got for free from various sources, and they are okay. BHG always reminds me of summers at my grandparents' houses because my step-grandmother had stacks of them in her living room and I'd read them all the time when I got bored. I think I would like BHG a lot more if I owned a house so actually put effort into decorating and all that and/or if I had kids- it would be more useful. I LOVE Fine Cooking, totally worth the money if you are at all interested in cooking.

    I despise all of the "womens" magazines; Cosmo, Glamour, etc. Honestly, once you read them once you have essentially read every single issue. The only time I'll even look at them is at the nail place if I don't have anyone to talk to and I forgot a book or if I have to wait at the hair salon. Not that you asked, but I just thought I'd share. The funniest thing I've ever seen was on our flight to Cancun the whole plane was full of honeymooners so a few of the pairs had to be split up, Bill and I were split up. The female of the couple in my row was actually reading Cosmo outloud to her new husband and giggling. He was pretending to be interested. It took everything in me not to be like "honey, he does not care. Cosmo has nothing in it that he is one iota interested in."

    4. What are your top three favorite office supply items? (If you don’t share the love of office supplies with me or if you are male, you may skip this question.)
    1) Post It Notes (and flags)
    2) Highlighters and Multi Colored Pens
    3) Expandable file folders. The one with 13 slots is so incredibly handy for organizing all your financial paperwork for the year (with an extra slot for taxes).

    Who doesn't love office supplies?

    5. Are you a good public speaker?
    No. I mean, I'm passable if I have to be but I hate being looked at and being the center of attention so I tend to start talking really fast by the end. When I talk fast my "accent" of sorts comes out and becomes magnified. It's actually Utahian with a tinge of Southern, but most people just think it's Southern with a tinge of retard. (For those who don't know, Utah accents are almost comprised entirely of complete mispronunciations of words and letters- "i"s as "e"s, "aine" as "en" etc. Sorry Utah, but it's true.) So I'll start out speaking English and end speaking some weird compilation of English like sounds.

    6. How do you feel about acronyms?
    Where I work, everything we do has an acronym. Actually our company name itself is an acronym, that they took the meaning from a couple years back so now we are just 3 random letters that are supposed to stand for nothing. It makes more sense if you get the full explanation but I don't talk about where I work in detail online. Anyway, acronyms are so ingrained in my life that I don't even notice them anymore.

    7. What’s the most creative things you’ve ever done? (Bloggers, feel free to include pictures!)
    I did a lot of the decorations for my wedding myself (with the help of a fierce MIL with a glue gun who came a week early). I don't have pictures yet, but they'll be posted when they are.

    8. I’d rather jam a pen in my eye than…
    Ever, ever go out on a first date again. I hate dating. It isn't fun, I don't care what others say.

    9. What company has the best advertising?
    There's this financial company that has an ad with a little video game cute animal that's trying to cross over a stream of fire. Best ad ever. I laugh every single time I see it, and if I'm channel surfing and I see it I'll actually stop and watch it. Although, I can't remember what company it is so maybe it's not that effective...

    I'm going to guess the most effective advertising is Geico. Everyone knows the Geico ads.

    10. When is your birthday?
    April. Only 5 months until I'm 30. Boo! Hiss!

    Read more Ten on Tuesdays here.

    Monday, November 16, 2009

    Kim's Daybook for November 16th

    FOR TODAY...

    Outside my window... a fall sunset and a lot of fallen leaves. Quite pretty, actually.

    I am thinking... that my gums feel numb and achey :-( Boo to dentists!

    I am thankful for... having the resources to feed our home and anyone who visits. I was reading in the Washington Post today about how the numbers of people who cannot do that on a regular basis is still increasing.

    I am wearing... brown courderoys and a blue sweater.

    I am remembering... the beautiful weather in Mexico.

    I am going... to get started on my to do list for the evening shortly. I should probably get dinner started as well.

    I am reading... Self magazine, November issue.

    I am hoping... to get the wedding stuff sorted and the thank you notes done by the weekend.

    On my mind... deciding whether to make dinner or just go for leftovers. I can't chew very well anyway.

    Noticing that... I have very little energy tonight, I'm hoping for a second wind :-)

    Pondering these words... "I like spring, but it is too young. I like summer, but it is too proud. So I like best of all autumn, because its tone is mellower, its colours are richer, and it is tinged with a little sorrow. Its golden richness speaks not of the innocence of spring, nor the power of summer, but of the mellowness and kindly wisdom of approaching age. It knows the limitations of life and its content."

    From the kitchen... chicken stuffed with cheese and mushrooms with rice and veggies. That's the plan for tonight anyway.

    Around the house... it's still a lot messier then I would like.

    One of my favorite things~ soft kitty fur curling up with me on the couch.

    From my picture journal...

    Wedding pic.

    Friday, November 13, 2009

    7 Quick Takes Friday, Vol. 7

    1. I did make it to the dentist on Monday, though I was so nervous that my stomach was in a tight ball and I almost vomited in their waiting room. When I went to the back, everyone was very nice and introduced themselves and it turned out they just did an exam and xrays. Didn't see the point of doing a cleaning when I really need deep cleaning done due to the condition of my gums, but since I am much like an animal they are afraid to frighten I'm getting the cleaning done in 4 visits. 1/4 of my mouth at a time with them using numbing gel, laughing gas, me listening to my Ipod with a pillow and blanket. It sounds almost pleasant... then I remember that dentists lie so we'll see if they are right and I really do feel nothing.

    2. The annual Capital Weather Gang winter outlook prediction came out and they predict that our area will be colder then normal and we'll get 16-26 inches of snow. Since our last couple of winters have been truly pathetic I'm hoping for this- I love snow. However, I do not like cold so if the colder then normal holds out I'll be spending lots of time inside.

    3. Since I'll be spending lots of time inside I need to figure out some things to do. I have a brand spanking new sewing machine that badly needs to be broken in... so far on my list is 1) making the curtains for the kitchen (finally!) and 2) finishing the quilt I've been working on forever. Anyone have any other ideas of what I can do?

    4. We have a bunch of stacks of wedding stuff everywhere. This worries me because Thanksgiving is fast approaching and there's only so nice we can make the house look with stacks of extra booze, candles, glass hurricanes, etc everywhere. Plus, some of the stacks are in the dining room. On the bright side, I did plan out my Thanksgiving menu and I'm really excited about it.

    5. Lizzy has become trained to run down to the basement anytime she feels pukey. So when she needs to throw up you'll hear a jingle of her tags when she jumps up then her tapping down all the stairs then hurling, then tapping back up the stairs. It's hilarious. She realized that we get a lot less angry with her incessant throwing up when it's not all over the carpeting- down in the basement it's all tile. Now if we could just get her to stop eating all the things that make her throw up in the first place...

    6. I have a clothing problem. I have way too many clothes and I barely wear any of them. Also, half of them don't fit but I don't know what to do about it. Do I get rid of them, replace them with clothes that do fit but then if I do lose weight isn't that a waste of money? Also, how do you decide what you really aren't going to ever wear again? I'd love to pare down my wardrobe quite a bit because we have a lack of storage/closet space in our house and it takes up a lot of room when, like I said, I wear the same 10 things all the time on a rotational basis. Quite silly. Most of my clothes aren't even attractive on me because I hate to go in stores (hate the crowds) so I order everything online and just guess at sizes. Sometimes I think I should just set aside some money, throw out everything and use one of those personal shopping services at a department store and start over. But then I realize that the same thing will just happen again and I'll end up with 30 pairs of sweatpants, 20 jeans and 20 ill fitting sweaters and wear nothing else.

    7. Weight Watchers baffles me and I've given up trying to figure it out. Weighing yourself on a weekly basis makes it very clear that there is no rhyme or reason to it. When I worked out at minimum three times a week with a personal trainer I could not stop gaining weight. Every week I'd weigh at least 2 lbs more, they kept saying it was muscle and it would start coming off but this went on for months. Then I stopped working out and stopped paying any attention at all to what I was eating or doing (due to the wedding and awesome all inclusive honeymoon) and I lost 3.2 lbs. This leads me to believe that the biggest issue is my job. It's sitting at a desk for 8 hours a day, barely moving. Since I can't quit my job I'm not sure what the solution is- there's only so many halls to walk through which I already do anytime I'm about to fall asleep at 2pm. There are so many reasons I need to be independently wealthy. Watch- this week even though I've eaten no more, possibly a lot less, then I did those previous two weeks, I'll end up gaining everything back just because I'm back at work. If I'm really lucky maybe when I start up my gym going again next week I'll starting gaining 2 lbs a week again. Woot! /sarcasm

    Tuesday, November 10, 2009

    Ten on Tuesday, Vol. 2

    1. What gift are you most proud of giving?

    I am the worst gift giver in the entire world. Seriously. If there were a gold medal in bad gift giving, I would win it consistently every single year. The only possible way you will get a decent gift from me is if you specifically tell me what you want, otherwise who knows what on earth you'll get.

    2. What’s the best gift you ever received?

    My engagement ring. I don't think there's much that tops that one purely due to the significance of it. Plus the one I got was my Mother-in-Law's which held even more significance to me because it meant that she approved and that was important to me.

    3. What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?

    My doctor has informed me that I am a bone density freak of nature. I went in for xrays after a snowboarding debacle that hurt my wrist and he informed me that my body weight falling (even repeatedly) straight onto my wrist would never break it. In fact, someone could probably take a hammer to my arm or leg and not even crack the bone. This is all a round about way of saying I don't actually get injured, no broken bones no stitches.

    However, I get horrible migraines and all of mine last the maximum 72 hours. Around the beginning of Day 3 I actually start contemplating cutting off my head with a dull object because it would have to hurt less then my migraine does- so those win, hands down.

    4. They say everyone gets 15 minutes of fame. Who’s 15 minutes has gone on far too long? (The Gosselins are not acceptable answers, be more creative.)

    Spencer and Heidi Pratt- and for that matter all of those "The Hills/Laguna Beach" people. I'm not quite sure why we are supposed to care about them. At least Paris Hilton has the interest factor of being raised with richer parents then most of us could ever dream of. They have nothing, at all, interesting about them.

    5. You have 20 minutes and $1000. What do you buy?

    This question baffles me and I don't quite know why. Normally I'd say clothes, shoes, purses but our closets are stuffed to the gills so the rule put in place when we moved in was bring something in/toss something out. I would love a new, bigger bed but we don't have room right now. I want some new appliances but it's not our house. I really don't need or want anything. That's such a weird feeling...

    6. Tell me three blogs that I need to read.

    The Daily Coyote - Always updated with a cute picture first thing in the morning so it's the first thing I see when I get on the computer. Not a bad start to the day ;-)

    What I Wore - Just discovered this awhile back. As someone who is outfit-impaired and who looks like she got dressed in the dark half the time, I am strangely obsessed with people who actually have style.

    Small Treasures - Kristen and her adorable daughters never fail to make me smile.

    7. Would you rather go without pizza or ice cream for the rest of your life?

    Pizza. I don't really like it, I only eat it because my husband loves it (though he has gotten in the habit of only ordering it when I go out to dinner with my girlfriends and he's home by himself; I can't decide if it's because he knows it's not my favorite or if it's because he prefers my cooking when I'm there. I'd like to think it's the latter ;-) ) Before I met him I hadn't eaten pizza in probably 10 years. However, I LOVE ice cream. Love it.

    8. Would you rather go to a beach or a snowy mountain?

    Beach. I could go to the beach an infinite number of times a year and never get tired of it, however I could only go to a snowy mountain a couple of times for very short period of times because after awhile skiing and other winter sports aren't fun enough to make up for the cold and dampness.

    9. Are you a night owl or a morning person?

    Night owl. Mornings and I do not get along. True story- when my mom was pregnant with me she'd have to go get her ultrasounds done in the middle of the night because I'd sleep all day worrying the doctors because they could not get me to budge. She was high risk, so they were willing to accommodate her. Around midnight I was a moving, kicking champion.

    10. What word do you always misspell?

    Committee. I'm not even sure if that's spelled right. The right spelling always looks wrong to me and there's just too many repeated letters. It's confusing.

    Read more here.

    Thursday, November 5, 2009


    I hate the dentist. I know, a lot of people say that but see they weren't held down by a mean dentist when they were a kid and yelled at/forcibly examined. Maybe I did kick him in the shins first and ran out of the office down the street but I still can't help but think there was a better way to handle that. Luckily I was blessed with the genetics of strong teeth so I've had a grand total of 2 cavities in my life, both surface level. The second one was actually lasered off, so no drill was needed.

    However, then there was my wisdom tooth debaucle. My mother doesn't believe in xrays- thinks the radiation from them and microwaves will kill you- so she never once bothered to let the dentist xray my mouth as a kid. My wisdom teeth never flared up when I was younger so she thought hey she probably doesn't have any, like me. Wrong. When they finally decided to start acting angry I was 23. The anger escalated through only 3 episodes until I was 25 and they got so infected that I couldn't actually open my mouth more than 2 inches without excruciating pain. Out of the desire to eat, I went in to the oral surgeon office. I didn't have a whole lot of time to research so I just went to one the closest to my office building so I could go during lunch thinking they'd give me antibiotics to clear up the infection then schedule me at a later date to take them out. Wrong again. They declared it an emergency and said at least the 2 infected ones had to come out. I knew that if it hurt at all I'd never go back so I said just take out all four. I had driven myself, it was the middle of a work day, and thus had to get myself back home. That, ladies and gentleman, is how Kim got 4 wisdom teeth extracted (2 extremely infected) with only novocaine. When I complained that it hurt I was informed that what did I expect? They were removing them from infected tissue, of course it hurt. Then I went home with an antibiotic and pain meds, then had an allergic reaction to the antibiotics and it all went down from there.

    Needless to say, I do not like the dentist. However, I'm terrified of my teeth falling out so the longest I will go between visits is AT MOST 2 years. I somehow garner the energy and try out a new dentist every time hoping that this will be the one that I won't hate. I'm wrong every time. I don't have a lot of desires- all I want is
    1) for them to listen when I tell them that that light up there pointing directly in my eyes? Gives me migraines so please adjust it just a bit
    2) not try to sell me on deep cleanings, teeth whitenings, caps, etc. etc. when I cannot move because I'm stuck in their chair with my mouth open
    3) listen when I say it hurts. Dentistry should not have to hurt that bad, I cannot believe that in modern medicine they really have not found some way to lessen the pain quotient.

    In full disclosure on 3, it's because while I inherited strong teeth I also inherited awful gums. Awful. No matter how much flossing and Listerining I do, they are tender and they are going to bleed. Dental cleanings hurt a lot for me and what I don't appreciate are hygenists informing me that "it's my fault that it hurts because my gums are crap." Not acceptable.

    I also have a baby tooth still in my mouth. This may have been discovered years ago when they could have pulled it and then pulled the permanent tooth down from my jaw in it's place except (see above) my mother didn't believe in xrays so this was not discovered until I graduated from college and got my own dental insurance. So at some point this baby tooth that has held on strong for 29 years will likely fall out and I will likely have to get a transplant. Every single dentist I go to wants to just pull it immediately and get it done though the tooth has no problems. No cavities, abscesses, looseness, nothing. I believe in minimal medical treatment in all things. I get what is necessary done and that is it. I am not going to pull a tooth that will "probably" fall out down the road. What if it doesn't? It's hung in for 29 years. Who says that my gum issues won't make all my other teeth fall out before it ever comes loose? I think they just want the money.

    The point to all this is that it's been a year and a half since my last cleaning. The last dentist I went to was recommended by my mother but then not only did he tell me to pull the baby tooth, and tell me to get my teeth whitened his hygenist was the one that said the above to me. I wasn't going back there. Also, he recently made my mom come in 6 times for one crown because he couldn't seem to ever measure her correctly. No thank you.

    I was reading this new blog that I found and she mentioned that she's had extensive dental work (and is an anxious patient) and the key to it all is finding a dentist that specializes in anxious patients. That won't let you hurt. That lets you listen to Ipods so you don't have to listen to the equipment. That gives you blankets and pillows. So I called 1-800-Dentists and they matched me with one that they said is wonderful. Unfortunately they scheduled me for Monday at noon so that doesn't give me a lot of time to prepare (read: worry excessively and dread the coming of the appt), but hopefully this will be as pleasent of an experience as possible. Bonus: he does specialize in implants so if my tooth does fall out and I stick with him he can do it on his own without me going anywhere, and he specializes in a whole line of gum treatment options. Way more than I've ever heard about so maybe he'll have an idea for my gum issue.

    We'll see...

    Wednesday, November 4, 2009


    One of the Washington Post website forums asks the question "what do you want from Metro?"

    I don't ride Metro all that often. My job has free parking and isn't near metro so I have to take a shuttle from the Pentagon to get there. Most days (unless there's accidents, backup or road work) if I leave at the right times it takes half the time for me to get to work driving then it would on the Metro. Thus, it doesn't make logical sense. However, on the occasions when I do ride the Metro, I just want to not end up feeling that the decision to do so was a completely stupid lapse of judgement on my part. Take, for example, Halloween night. I live about 5 minutes from a Metro station so we decided to take the metro out so that no one had to drive home. We get to the station as a train is pulling in. We get on the train but it sits... and sits... and we sit there for 30 min. I understand that we are at the end of the line so we have to wait sometimes but 30 min? On a Saturday night at 9:30? On Halloween when surely they knew they'd have decent ridership numbers going into the city? So finally we get going and since we are eventually going to a stop on the Orange line we figure okay transfer to the blue, then the orange because it will be a ton faster unless the board told us that it would be a really long wait. The problem with this is that we get off the yellow line because the board said "7 minutes" till the next Blue line. 7 minutes isn't so bad. Then it counts down normally until it hits 3 minutes. Then jumps up to 13 minutes and then nothing. Just a blank spot in the minute space. This is never a good sign, something is wrong. So we wait, and we wait. At this point it has been an hour and a half since we left our house. 5 minute walk to the metro and then we went 4 stops. 4. We were perhaps 5 miles from our house. It took an hour and a half.

    We then left and caught a cab.

    This is why I do not ride metro, and this is what I'd like to see fixed.

    P.S. Also, the handrail for the stairs was an odd sort of sticky gross and I didn't put my hand sanitizer in my going out purse. I also didn't appreciate that.

    Tuesday, November 3, 2009

    Ten on Tuesday, Vol. 1

    Soon, I'll get up to having content to post every day of the week :-P If you want to complain about all the Q&A content let me know... anyways on to the new Ten on Tuesday.

    1. What animal should cease to exist? (Not including bugs. That’s too obvious.)
    Rats. I hate rats. One time my mom and I were in downtown DC one night seeing a show and on the way back to the metro a rat (massive large, well fed city rat) ran over my sandaled foot. I've never recovered.

    2. What was your favorite thing about the beach?
    The sound of the ocean. It's incredibly calming to me.

    3. If scientists found a way to allow dogs to talk, do you think we should implement it? Or should we just keep them quiet?
    I think part of the charm of dogs is that you can tell them anything and you know they'll never say anything. What if you got a gossipy dog? ;-) But on the bright side, if they hurt or were sick they could tell you.

    4. How do you order your Starbucks?
    Depends on the seasons-
    Summers: Mocha Frap Light or Iced Mocha; Fall: Pumpkin Spice Frap/Latte; Winter: Plain coffee with cream and a little bit of sugar or honey.

    5. What’s worse? People who don’t know the difference between your and you’re OR people who smack their food?
    People who smack their food. I'll extend that to people who eat loudly in general, it drives me batty.

    6. What CD can you listen to over and over?
    Adele- 19 and Christina Aguilera- Stripped.

    7. What was the most surprising thing about college?
    That who you surround yourself with makes a HUGE difference in how your experience is. If you are around studious/motivated people you'll get better grades. Stuff like that really does rub off. So does procrastination and lack of motivation.

    8. What’s the best deal you ever got? (Biggest sale item.)
    Lately I got 144 votive candles and glass holders for $30.00.

    9. Who is your role model? Why?
    I don't have one really, just bits and pieces of things that I like and admire about different people pieced together.

    10. What movie would you like to see that is in theaters right now? Why?
    Not sure when it opens but I want to see that Sandra Bullock movie where she's a mom who takes in an orphaned high school boy. I love football so I see any movie that has football in it, plus it looks like it has a happy ending and I love movies with happy endings.

    Monday, November 2, 2009

    Kim's Daybook for November 2nd

    Wow- it's already November?!? This year has flown by!

    FOR TODAY...

    Outside my window... our yard is covered in leaves. We were going to rake but then it started raining. Now our yard is covered in soggy leaves.

    I am thinking... of all the things I want to do this year for the holidays.

    I am thankful for... the fact that our wedding turned out wonderful, and I'm thankful for everyone who made it on such a bad weather day. We decided that rain (and cold rain at that) is good luck :-)

    I am wearing... Black pants and a red button down shirt with nifty sleeves. I just switched out my summer/winter clothing last night. I love switching clothes, it almost feels like you get a whole new wardrobe... but for free.

    I am remembering... how wonderful Cancun was. Wonderful weather, great new friends, lazy days of lying on lounge chairs actually in the pool so when you got hot you could just roll in the water.

    I am going... to be taking a makeup test this week, restarting weight watchers and overall just getting back into the swing of things (and work on getting our house back in order).

    I am reading... Good Housekeeping November issue.

    I am hoping... to finally get the kitchen curtains made. I really hate the bare windows that look out into our dark backyard. I constantly startle myself while doing dishes at night.

    On my mind... how sleepy I am. Honestly, between the time change and going through Daylight Savings twice and coming off a vacation schedule my sleep schedule is so messed up. I only got 3 hours of sleep last night.

    Noticing that... I don't have as much pending work to do as I was braced for.

    From the kitchen... not much aside from take-out/delivery. No one has gone to the grocery store yet.

    Around the house... are boxes and boxes of wedding stuff. I need to list them for sale ASAP to get rid of the clutter. I hate clutter.

    One of my favorite things... how much time my new husband and I have been able to spend with each other the last two weeks.

    From my picture journal...

    Happy (belated) Halloween if you celebrate it.

    Read more Daybook entries here.

    Monday, October 5, 2009

    Kim's Daybook for October 5th

    FOR TODAY...from The Simple Women's Daybook

    Outside my window... semi-fallish weather. It's definitely getting cooler.

    I am thinking... There are only 12 days until I get married, so much to do!

    I am thankful for... my friends

    I am wearing... gray pinstriped pants, white shirt and gray cardigan. The outfit sounds a lot snazzier then it looks- none of my clothes are great right now.

    I am remembering... how our wedding seemed so far away this time last year. Time moves by so quickly.

    I am going... to get our marriage license today during lunch.

    I am reading...not much right now, just too busy. Accounting is pretty much it.

    I am hoping... to get as much as possible done this week, and to get more organized.

    On my mind... lists, lists and... more to do lists.

    Noticing that... the leaves have started to fall.

    Pondering these words... "have you heard anything about the bridesmaid dresses? Yes, we still don't have them. *worries*

    From the kitchen... it's very still right now, not a lot of time. My menu planning and cooking will begin once again in earnest once we are back from our honeymoon.

    Around the house... Laundry needs to be done, and the basement needs to be cleaned for Bill's mom who will be here on Saturday.

    One of my favorite things~ Boot season- it's almost here!

    From my picture journal...

    Thursday, October 1, 2009

    Chelsea at Roots and Rings wrote an entry today about what memories she wants her children to also experience and asked us what ours were. This entry combined with more pondering then I normally do about my family (due to the wedding, weddings do that) has led me to realize that in every possible way I am the exact opposite.

    Don't get me wrong; I didn't live through horrific abuse, I didn't bounce through foster homes, I didn't have to overcome any disability so it could have been a lot worse. I realize that. But for the most part I feel that I have scratched and clawed out who I am in spite of how I grew up and in spite of my "family" and it really shouldn't be that hard. On top of that, some things that I feel are serious flaws of mine are directly related to my childhood; such as my inability to show emotion towards people, my lack of hugging, my incredible lack of empathy, my distrust of humans, and I wish that it were my first inclination to be friendly and thoughtful to people. It's not.

    I'll tell you what my childhood memories are- I remember my dad not picking me up from preschool on my 4th birthday when we were supposed to go to the zoo, I remember walking myself back to my sitters house and then hearing the hushed voices of her talking to my mother on the phone. I didn't see my dad again until I was 12. I remember my uncle and his family coming into town with their kids and telling my mom that I still had to go to the sitter for the day because they didn't want me to spend the day with them. I remember my mom telling me that my friends couldn't come over or stay overnight because she didn't want to have to feed them. I remember my mom telling me on repeat throughout my life that people could not be trusted, you could only trust yourself. I remember walking myself home in the afternoons with a key around my neck and being absolutely terrified that it was going to storm before my mom got home. I was scared of storms but I was too afraid to admit it because I didn't want to look like a baby. I was 8. Instead I just sat in my closet with my stuffed animals willing the storm to stop and never once mentioned it to my mom. I remember taking care of myself for as long as I could remember, I don't remember hugs, I don't remember kisses. I remember stress and that's about it. I hate christmas, I hate thanksgiving because they were never fun. They just added to the stress and loneliness that permeated throughout my childhood even when we went out to Utah to see my family. I always felt like an outsider. I remember my mother never once trusting me, even though I never gave her reasons not to. I remember her making mountains out of every mole hill and I remember her even telling me that I was possessed by Satan, because I was an incredibly angry teenager. No, I'm not joking. I was told when I turned 18 that I could come home on breaks from college, but that was it. My mom's job was over. I got 2 months when I got out of college and then tossed out.

    On the bright side I do remember my friend's families that included me and took me in when they didn't have to. I remember my "aunt" (she wasn't really related) always making me feel loved and like I had some form of family. She was even our assistant scout leader one year.

    I don't tell you these things for sympathy because honestly, that's who made me who I am. It made anything I do like about myself mean more to me, and the fact that I am such a giving person is on top of that pile. I can honestly say that no matter how poor we are or how little food we have, I'd never in my life say I refused to feed anyone who was in my house nor inform people they couldn't stop over because I didn't want to give. I will never be like my mother in that way, and I am thankful for that.

    For my future children, it is my hope that they will always be loved. That they will know kisses and hugs and be the first to give them to others. That they will have a healthy amount of trust in others. That they will love holidays because they are filled with happy memories, and that they will never feel like they can't tell me that they are afraid of storms. If they are angry or upset as teenagers they will never feel that they are possessed or going to hell. They will have a healthy attitude about life, love and sex instead of issues they are forced to overcome for the rest of their lives. While stress is inevitable in life, they will never say that what they remember most was the stress. They will never feel that their best isn't good enough, because it always is whether their best is an A or a C or if their skill set is math or drawing. They will ALWAYS feel that they can come home again. No matter what.

    Monday, September 28, 2009


    Busy, Busy, Busy! That one word is defining my time lately. Last week was the week of deliveries, so our living room was packed full with boxes of stuff for the wedding. Candles, candle holders, table runners, bags to hold birdseed, etc. It was getting to excessive proportions so last night I spent some time compiling everything into one area and now I feel a lot less frazzled.

    On tap for this week:

    - Accounting test on Tuesday
    - Final Dress fitting on Tuesday after test
    - Finish place cards
    - Finalize the remaining RSVPs
    - Seating chart
    - Make linings for baskets
    - Make curtains for kitchen window (not wedding related but has been sitting around not getting done, I should probably do it)
    - Buy birdseed, and give that and bags to mom to fill
    - Make reserved sign
    - Make cards sign
    - Get paint for table card frames, paint them
    - Design table numbers

    Next week:

    - Make flower arrangements for pews
    - programs
    - make placecard tree
    - favors/favors containers
    - AC Moore to pick up bouquets, bouts, corsages
    - Pick up berries for centerpieces
    - Buy alcohol
    - Pick up marriage license

    That leaves all that's left to do the week before is packing up everything into boxes with instructions for the day of coordinator and picking up the sanctuary keys. If I can stick to this schedule that would be wonderful.

    Wednesday, September 16, 2009


    Here it is Wednesday and I lost out on a portion of my week. I hate it when that happens. Really, I could have predicted it the minute we didn't leave until 8pm for the 4.5 hour drive down to the Blacksburg area on Friday night. The thing with me is that I have to sleep; on a schedule, constant and no napping. It makes me not all that fun especially since Bill tends to be a bit of a night owl, but the quicker I embrace this truth the quicker we will all be better off.

    I used to get at least 2 migraines a month, this was a constant. If I forgot my sunglasses one day, that added another one (I have incredibly light sensitive eyes and so sunlight or flourescent lighting give me migraines). Then I read about the sleep factor. Many of you remember that Bill used to work nights, and we lived in a very small apartment. Meaning that while he was sleeping during the day on weekends many times I had no choice but to join him. Anything else would make too much noise. So, I slept all weekend. Constantly. Plus I was on a work schedule where I didn't go in until 10am, add to that my inability to sleep well at night while home by myself and lets just say I was an insomniac, cranky, sleep deprived-then quickly sleep laden headachey mess. Lately, with help from a major change in his work schedule I've fixed that problem. I pretty consistantly get 8 hours* of sleep, no naps and I won't let myself sleep longer than that on the weekends. My headaches have now decreased to one a month (and since that's due to hormone fluctuations there's essentially nothing I do about it except pray that the rumors that those end after your first pregnancy are true for me) which is a vast improvement.

    This past weekend included not getting to the hotel on Friday until 1:30, not falling asleep until 3am, being up at 9am, tailgating, football game, straight back into car and driving for 2.5 hours, stop for dinner and socializing, not back on the road until 11pm, home Saturday night at 1:30am (once again being way too awake from driving to fall asleep promptly) then up for church. Then I made the mistake to end all mistakes... I took a nap. Not just any nap but a 6 hour long power monster nap. When I woke up my headache was starting. Boo!

    That whole story just explains why I have had zero productivity this week so far. The laundry is in piles, the house is a wreck, we have no food, nothing on my to do list is crossed out. I hate that.

    My other epiphany this week is that I need to stop watching television. It's a huge vice for me, and it's got to be minimized or I spend nights doing nothing but sitting and watching the time suck machine until it's too late to do anything but go to bed. My new plan (at least until after the wedding) is only watch on weekends/nights when everything I need to do is done. I've subscribed to the few I really like watching on Hulu and that's my method for accomplishing that since we do not have a DVR. We'll see how it goes.

    P.S. This migraine really blows. Normally I just get the headache, but this time around I am getting dizzy, my vision is fuzzy and I'm nauseous. Not cool migraine gods, not cool.

    * Did you know that people who have a really, really hard time getting up in the mornings with less than 8 hours of sleep actually have a minor sleep disorder? So the people you may think are just being lazy, actually have a medical reason for it. They also tend to be very hard to wake up fully (and are pros at the answering you/talking to you but never actually wake up nor will they ever remember it later). In high school my mom used to have to pull me out of bed by my arm, pull me into the shower and turn on the water to shock me awake. Nothing else worked.

    Friday, September 11, 2009

    7 Quick Takes Friday, Vol. 6

    1. So the Hokies lost last week, but that's okay. It could have been a LOT worse, we were leading until the 4th quarter against a great team, with zero offense on our part. I think that's pretty impressive actually, and says a lot of great things about our defense and special teams. If we can get the offense to put in just a tiny bit of effort and skill we'll have a great season.

    2. Bill and I are heading to Blacksburg for the game tomorrow and had quite the debacle with our tickets. We ordered 4 back in July for this game from a well rated retailer, then I started getting worried when we hadn't received them. So I called and they said "the promoter we get them from hasn't received them yet, we can't do anything until closer to the time." So this past Wed I called and asked why we had no tickets yet and the guy put me on hold supposedly to talk to the promoter then came back saying, "well they just received them. They'll put them in the Fed-Ex on Thursday and you'll get them by Saturday." To which I pointed out that we are 4.5 hours away from the game so getting them by noon on Saturday for a 1:30 game wasn't really going to work. Then it got nasty where the guy was saying that they only guarantee that you have them in time for the event, not in time to also drive to the event. Right. He also got mad because I called him a liar for saying that they just received their tickets. I know that is untrue because everyone else I know got their tickets from whichever source they bought them from, weeks ago. He finally said, we'll upgrade you to overnight shipping for free so you'll get them by Friday at noon.
    Thursday at 5:30 I had not received shipping confirmation or a tracking number so I called back. The guy I talked to this time asked me to hold to once again supposedly talk to their source for the tickets then comes back and says "It will be shipping out today and get to you tomorrow by noon." I asked why I had no tracking info yet and pointed out that it was getting late in the day and he said "yes, but they will be putting them in the last pickup of the day. You'll have to be home to sign for them in the morning, I'm sending you the tracking info now." So I wait, and wait and by 1am when I went to bed I still had no tracking number. This is important because I was intending to change the delivery location to my office building so I didn't have to stay home waiting.
    When I wake up this morning at 7am, still no tracking number. However their customer service line doesn't open until 8am Central so 9am where I am, so I end up calling out for the morning. I call at 9:15, wait for 20 minutes to get through to someone and surprise! it's the guy I talked to the night before. He checks and says "let me check why they haven't shipped yet" right before putting me on hold which starts up my anger to a little flicker. Then he quickly comes back and says "they are going out today overnight so you'll get them by tomorrow at noon." Incorrect answer. I, as calmly as possible, inform him why we cannot receive them tomorrow (again) and point out that I was told the night before that they were shipping out. He admits that was him and that he actually didn't talk to the promoter, that there was no answer and he "left a message." So yeah, he lied. And I was home waiting for tickets that were never on their way. After I emphatically tell him that no, we cannot get them tomorrow and that is unacceptable he says "hold on I will call them" and then actually (I believe for the first time anyone really did this at this company) called them. I can tell the difference because I was on hold for a really long time. Like an actual conversation length. Then he comes back and informs me that actually they oversold so they don't have my tickets.

    Lets summarize, I called multiple times and talked to multiple people who claimed they were talking to the promoters and no they actually weren't. Clearly. Or they would have been told this problem already. I was blatantly lied to about shipping to the point that if I had been able to wait until Sat morning to receive them, I wouldn't have known until the day of the event that I had no tickets because if I had hung up the conversation this morning after "they are shipping out today..." they still never would have checked.

    3. When I threw a not very nice hissy fit (and felt vindicated of my calling the guy on Wed a liar) they offered us some really good seats like 9 rows back on the 50 yard line and said they'd be waiting at will call. So now you want me to believe that you'll be able to get tickets to the will call office in about 24 hours when you couldn't manage shipping the originals to my house in 2 months? Yeah, and I also believe that reindeer really do fly with magic Santa dust. No thanks. His response? "Well I'm trying to help you attend something that clearly you want to, for some reason, or you wouldn't be pressing us so hard about these tickets." No I am not kidding. That's what he really said. Two things about that comment: 1) the tickets were expensive. Not like Madonna concert expensive but expensive nonetheless and we bought 4 of them. Needless to say, this is not a small amount of money we are talking about. Why on earth would I just throw up my hands and say "oh well!" 2) "For some reason" is exactly the wrong thing to say about why a Hokie Alumni wants to go to a Virginia Tech game. We take that as mocking our precious football team and thus do not take kindly to it.

    4. When I hung up, I had a full refund and everyone's names to then promptly report them to the better business bureau. That's the third time I've had to report someone to the BBB in 2 months, lets just say I have really bad luck with corporations. Talking to others we've realized that while logic would say that companies would get better customer service due to the recession and their want to keep customers, the exact opposite seems to be true. Which is baffling. The story ends well because I found some nice Hokie Alum in my area who has season tickets and had a family emergency this weekend and thus couldn't go to the game. I had to drive out to Manassas to get them, but now I have tickets to much better seats for 1/3 of what we paid before AND according to the guy the people who we are seated with are really fun to watch the game with. Score!

    5. Today is the anniversary of the most horrific attack on civilians on American Soil in modern history. I did not lead off with that nor devote more of my post to it, because others will do so in a much more eloquent fashion then I could ever hope. That morning for me happened this way: Alaina and I both woke up on time that day for class but for some reason decided that we needed a mental health day more, so we were still at home. I had on our teeny tiny old dial tv and saw it on the news and said to Alaina that a plane crashed into the World Trade Center. She thought I meant like a little turboprop that got lost, like a 2 person. I didn't have the words to correct her, until she came out and saw it herself. Then we spent the rest of the day contacting our families and holed up at home. My mom was working in downtown DC right next to the 14th street bridge and she says that she was watching on a tv they rolled onto their floor, then turned around to the windows behind her and saw the smoke coming from the Pentagon and was like "I'm getting the heck out of here." Her and a coworker were part of the last bit of cars that made it past the Pentagon before the backups and the shut downs started.

    6. A large part of my memory is the surreal feeling I had while looking at the photos of the Pentagon because when I was a child, my mom worked in an office that was directly where the plane hit. I spent a lot of my childhood in that office with her coworkers because she was a single parent and had to take me in anytime the babysitter's was shut down, school closed, I was too sick to go to school but not sick enough for her to stay home, etc. Her coworkers used to give me "work to do," so odds say if you ever went into the DOD OPM office in the mid 80s and saw a small child standing on top of a box making photocopies- that was me. The one blessing that did occur is that a large portion of the hit area of the Pentagon (including my mom's old office with many of the same coworkers that were so nice to me) had been evacuated because of renovations, so they were all in Crystal City.

    7. It's strange when a place is hit with unspeakable violence that you spent enough time in to remember clearly, surreal sadness with a tinge of creepy are the only words to put to it. The next (and only other time) I've had that same surreal sense was when Cho killed all the Virginia Tech Students in Norris Hall. I had classes in two of the classrooms he hit so I actually had flashbacks of the rooms, and what the doorway looked like from my desk, and where the windows were. I would imagine what it looked like to the kids in there when he came through and those seconds before you realized he was holding a gun and firing at you. I didn't sleep well for months, and I had graduated years before so I can't even imagine what it has been like for those who were there and survived either 9/11 or the VA Tech massacre to get past it and keep living their lives. Most people are lifting up their prayers to those who died, but the survivors need it even more IMO because they are still here and are most definitely not at peace.